Everyone loves a manic pixie dream girl. Even before the boom of romcoms and artsy hipster love stories, eccentric pretty girls have been around, frolicking and looking for
Recently, a twitter parody was made dedicated for this archetype of female characters in films. And reading the tweets made me think, I am a manic pixie dream girl! And I was narcissistic enough to come up with a list of reasons why this is so.
I tend to get very impulsive in making major life decisions that sometimes it scares my friends and family. A few years ago, I was in the middle of trying (or not trying at all?) to finish my four-year course when one of my ex-best friends (he’s a guy because, duh?) asked me to get a job in the city and move in with him and our other friends so we could be creative together while earning from our night-shift job. This sounded like a good idea since I didn’t exactly have a direction in life at the time so I went for anything that seemed fun. I applied for the job, and a lot of things happened since then that even led to me talking to a stranger at the street at around 2 am and flying to his hometown miles away a week after we met. And now, I’m back in college to finish what I’ve started. I’m so entangled in my own guts, even I don’t understand myself sometimes.
Let's do something reckless and impulsive. Let's run naked in the rain. I want to feel alive!— ManicPixieDream Girl (@QuirkyMPDG) May 5, 2015
I like reading comicbooks and apparently a lot of people find that surprising and cool. Like, I don’t know, man. Comics are cool. Why are you still surprised I like this shit? Is it because I’m a girl? Just kidding, I’m not gonna start being all feminazi here. But, you gotta admit, the double standards exist!
Most people think it's weird that a girl as pretty as me likes comic books and vinyl records.— ManicPixieDream Girl (@QuirkyMPDG) May 5, 2015
I hope there’s a better way of saying this but I flirted with guys a lot before by having deep, meaningful (lol) conversations with them but, for some reason, they didn’t admit to themselves that I was just being a bitch. They thought I was just being my weird and cute and ~fragile~ self that they let me manipulate (?) them. Now before you start throwing the stones at me, let me get some things straight: Flirting is okay. Flirting with a lot of guys when you’re not in a commitment is okay. But flirting with guys with the intention of making them fall madly in love with you and then leaving them hanging, now that’s just mean. And I did that a few times already. It’s not that it was ever my intention to hurt guys. I don’t know. The intimacy was comforting, I guess, but that’s all it ever was, tension. I was lonely, you were there. I didn’t know your heart was gonna be stomped and broken to pieces, it wasn’t part of the plan.
Now that I’m older and more compassionate (I hope), I know better now to set certain boundaries and reconsider how to treat people who I want to keep as just friends. 'Cause it’s not always fun to deal with romantic complications.
Don’t say I didn’t say I didn’t warn ya~
Life's too short to not fall madly and immediately in love with me— ManicPixieDream Girl (@QuirkyMPDG) May 5, 2015
Artistic rut, huh? Maybe all you needed was to find your muse.— ManicPixieDream Girl (@QuirkyMPDG) May 5, 2015
open yourself up to new experiences! like falling hopelessly in love with someone you’ve reduced to a concept— ManicPixieDream Girl (@QuirkyMPDG) May 9, 2015
I’m really, really stubborn. No matter how much my friends and family tell me that this is the safe road, this is the sure road, I would take the other road to prove if that’s true. It also helps that I often don’t think about what other people would say about me and my decisions ‘cause I always think I know what’s best for me. And, it just makes sense, right?
You've been following the rules for way too long ;)— ManicPixieDream Girl (@QuirkyMPDG) May 5, 2015
A lot of people say I still look pretty even when I don’t dress up that much. But that doesn’t mean I don’t handpick the items I’m gonna wear! I always choose the ones that look best with my features and with the items I already have. Smart underdressing is what it is. I don’t take my time dressing up and putting makeup because 1) I never had a job that required me to look formal or business-like and 2) most of the places I stay in have a pretty laid-back environment. Also? 3) It’s just my preference! But it doesn’t mean I’d never dress up. I honestly think getting dolled up every now and then is pretty rad. And makeup is kinda just like painting, except, instead of a blank canvas, we color the face.
i don’t believe in a universal standard of female beauty, but i happen to perfectly adhere to the one that everyone else agrees on— ManicPixieDream Girl (@QuirkyMPDG) May 6, 2015
I'm not really into wearing makeup. Good thing I have naturally flawless skin.— ManicPixieDream Girl (@QuirkyMPDG) May 6, 2015
I’m attached to my coffee. I can't help it that it’s my lifeblood!
i'm a regular at every single coffeeshop— ManicPixieDream Girl (@QuirkyMPDG) May 6, 2015
I like music by sad, awkward white boy bands. And so do a lot of people?
can you believe i like the same band of sad white boys that you do?— ManicPixieDream Girl (@QuirkyMPDG) May 6, 2015
One of my officemates in my old job told me that the first time she saw me, she thought I looked like some kind of gypsy. Some people told me that I looked like an artist, stoned, or that I reminded them of Summer Finn. I often would like to think of these things as a compliment because that means I'm different, creative, and weird in this overly romanticized way. That I have unconventional ideas that are sensible. Sometimes, though, it makes me feel uneasy 'cause it may also mean that I like running away from things even before I finish them or come up with a resolution to overcome them, just like Holly Golightly did. Or that I dwell in my suffering so much, just like Alaska Young. Or that I when I finally get used to something, I'd have the tendency to feel trapped just like Clementine Kruczynski.
Regardless of how bad it may seem or feel, sometimes you just gotta have to be a manic pixie dream girl. It's that part of everyone when they want to feel something alive and burning about them. Maybe it's this realization that life is short and fleeting that sometimes we go into this state of panic of wanting to seize the day. And you know what?
I think that's perfectly okay.